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Episode 55 – Loki on the Law

While most of the time BDSM play is all find and safe, there are some pitfalls you can run into with the law from time to time. To help prevent those times, or to help protect yourself in case they do, we decided to do a show all about the law. We asked on our friend Loki, who is an attorney and has done workshops on these very issues at kink related events in the past.

We cover a wide variety of topics, all the way from consent and domestic violence, to kidnapping scenes and copyright of your personal porn images. It ended up being a very interesting discussion (that was also enhanced by Drewlion tied to the table in the background with a Venus 2000 milker hooked on).

 

Show Notes

In the News

Discussion Topics

  • Can’t consent to crimes against the person like assault
  • Always keep prescriptions in their bottle, especially narcotics
  • Domestic violence calls
    • Visible Bruises may result in call long after scene
  • Kidnap scenes
    • Probable cause to search
    • Safety
  • Cops
    • Comply
    • Be polite
    • Repeat “do not consent” to search
    • Party etiquette
    • Keep toys in locked bag in car
    • Lock car if you get out
  • Therapists / Attorney privilege
    • Privileged unless risk of serious harm to self or others
  • Ncsf
  • Pictures and recordings
  • Porn, tumblr, copyrights

About Our Guest

Loki is a friend of our from Atlanta, and someone we adore. We are so happy he was able to join us for this show. He is both an Alpha Pup and Handler. He is also the Director of the Atlanta Dominion play party, which you can find out more about by going to http://atlantadominion.com/

 

Sponsors

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How to find a handler…

As I fly home from Tampa, Florida, I’m given a few hours just to reflect. For those of you who might not know, I had the honor and opportunity to compete in a little competition called International Puppy 2014 . . . No Biggie.  What made the trip so exciting and wonderful were the many different types of puppies we met, the different kinds of handler and pup dynamics, and just seeing how these types of puppies conduct themselves in large social settings. We met rubber pups, leather pups, boy pups, slave pups, alphas, betas, strays, and even puppies who didn’t want or need a handler. Even better, I was able to take this trip with my handler by my side, giving me constant support as I competed. My handler was, in all respects, there for me: helping me practice my speech, which you can view here, assisting my costume changes, and ensuring I was hydrated during photo shoots while emotionally and physically holding my hand and encouraging me 110%. As a puppy, having that sort of bonding time with your handler is what makes puppy play what it should be: Fun! I have a new respect for not only my handler for all he does, but handlers in general for putting up with our butt plugs, barking and constant need of nuzzles and attention. Even at competitions like International Puppy where the focus is mostly on the pup, we have to give credit to the handler in large part. It just wouldn’t run as smoothly without them helping behind the scenes, whether it’s grabbing entire costume changes at the last minute or providing first aid for obstacle course injuries — to name just a few of my own experiences. Being a handler is by no means a small responsibility, but I want to take this opportunity to thank mine from the bottom of my heart for being my handler and making my pup self the luckiest puppy ever!

Making the connection…

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With that said, let’s get into the real meat of this topic: essentially it’s how and where puppies and handlers find one another. I’ve asked this question before of a number of people and have gotten a wide variety of replies. Often, the first response you hear is “online.” With social networking accounting for large percentages of online relationships, and puppies still being a very spread thin in many local communities, the internet has exploded with pups (which is ironic considering paws don’t actually make for easy typing). Every day I check my Pup Amp Facebook page only to discover a new friend request from a pup or two, usually accompanied with nuzzles and licks on my wall. As far as social networking goes, I think it’s done a wonderful thing for puppies and handlers: it has a given a low entry level for being a pup publically, allowed for making new pup friends, and finding potential handlers, whether they’re local or virtual. In fact, more than half the people I met in person at International Puppy this last weekend I had already interacted with at least once in an online chat — and many of them were handlers looking for pups.

In the very same way that social networking allows for “easy access” when searching for a pup/handler, another popular answer to “how did you meet your handler/pup” is “through online dating apps.” With apps like Recon, Scruff and Growlr, we see a whole community of handler/pup candidates at the very tips of our puppy paws who are virtually available 24/7. Ironically enough, Scruff is where I found my handler, Kevin, as well. I recommend dating apps for finding new people in your area, but with an additional word of warning about catfish as well (you can read that post here)  Never assume anything about someone you’ve only met online. Always be cautious and aware that you, as a pup or a handler, have rights and can make choices when looking for your pup play counterpart.

Last, but far from least remains another fairly typical answer to finding a handler is to simply not to look in the first place! I like to think that being yourself is ultimately what someone will be drawn to or put off by, and if being a puppy just happens to be the icing on the cake — hey, even better! You’d be surprised how many times I hear how someone goes on a date, totally unsuspecting that the other person might have their own kinks, only to find a pup or handler sitting across the table from them.  Similarly, I’ve even had a pup friend approached at a bar by a stranger who got the pup’s attention by calling him “puppy,” out of nowhere. And it was all downhill from there. Not looking and keeping options open is the most stress-free way to find a pup or handler,  and that approach will provide for less desperate circumstances and pave the way for a more organic relationship to form.

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Once you’ve gotten through all that risk-taking and connection-making and you’ve found a prospective handler or pup, then what? First and foremost, you have to test that person out, make a checklist of need/wants/red flags and start chatting. Make sure this person is who you want and who he/she says they are. I’ll be the first to admit to doing some cyberstalking of new love interests, be it puppy or not. Everyone in today’s day and age has at least some sort of Facebook presence, and you should never feel bad for doing a discreet background check of your own to keep yourself safe. And well before you start the negotiations, you should make sure you click with the person. Get to know the person you’re interested in and consider your chat a kind of job interview, but with a lot more lube. Speaking from the personal experience my handler and I had, we moved after chatting on Scruff to very detailed e-mails back and forth where we really got to know each other and began to make a deep connection. These e-mails were also well before making any plans to meet in person. (The funniest part, we found later, was that we had more than a few common friends and had actually met at a birthday party a month or two before we found each other online and started to discuss puppies.) We made ourselves as transparent as possible and began our negotiations and stated expectations from there. While some of those initial expectations have stayed the same over time, a relationship such as this tends to also evolve as involved parties work to maintain open lines of communication.

When it’s all said and done, the most important thing is to be yourself — and expect no less from any perspective pup or handler.I can promise you will know if that next person is right for you when they come along. Explore and experience the pup community, but know that a handler does not make a pup, and a pup does not make a handler. Be open, be safe, be consensual, and don’t forget to have some tail-wagging and squirrel chasing fun along the way!

ARRROU!

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Episode 54 – Metalbond

For this show we have on Metal from the www.metalbondnyc.com blog! For those that follow all the kink blogs out there, this is a primary site you should be following. The site is full of pics and stories that you are going to love.

We got to know Metal himself and more about his kinks, and why it is that he does the blog. He put together some words about himself so you can get to know him better:

As they may have mentioned, I met Daddy Tony and Mikey when I visited the Serious Male Bondage Institute in SF a few years back.

My primary sexual interest is in inescapable bondage, especially locking metal. I’ve spent many happy, long weekends locked up (out-of-town) in jail cells, straitjackets, sleepsacks and rubber gear. I also host others for play in my tiny walkup apartment in Manhattan. I have drawers, closets and shelves full of leather restraints, ropes, handcuffs, shackles, chains and padlocks — and I even have a steel puppy cage under my loft bed.

I have been wired this way for as long as I can remember. Sexually, I am way more interested in bondage with a guy than in fucking. Always have been and probably always will be. I played tie-up games with neighborhood friends as a kid back in Michigan. The first time I ever ejaculated was after I had restrained myself in my bedroom with belts and realized I could not get out. I sent away for my first pair of handcuffs through a mail order catalog and later kept them hidden in my dorm room at college. Now I have more handcuffs than I know what to do with.

One of the first things I did when I moved to New York City in 1992 was go to the New York Bondage Club, where I was tied up by Bob Wingate and James Bond on my first night there. Later I joined GMSMA (Gay Male SM Activists), a NYC-based organization dedicated to promoting safe, sane and consensual sm. I was editor of NewsLink, the GMSMA newsletter, for six years and served on its board of directors. (GMSMA closed down in 2009.)

Also as part of my “kink resume,” I competed as a bootblack at IML, way back in 1998 and 1999, and was first runner-up both years.

I started up the Metalbond website about five years ago. The reason? I realized I had so many pictures and stories on my hard drive, that I felt it would be a shame not to share it with others. So I set up the site, and vowed to keep updating it regularly. At least once a day, sometimes two or three times a day.

 Show Notes

In the News

Discussion Topics

  •  The MetalbondNYC.com website, and why he started it
  • How long has Metal been into kink
  • The rant about the difference between clips versus locks
  • His past experiences with Bob Wingate and James Bond
  • Does running a blog get you more action

About Our Guest

Be sure to check out Metal Bonds website by going to www.metalbondnyc.com

 

Sponsors

Mr. S Leather Co.

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Venus 2000

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Shorts 04 – Poppers

A listener sent in a question that we decided to address in this Shorts episode. Here is what they sent:

I actually have a questions about the episode (referring to Episode 51 – Covering Recovery). Where do poppers fall into the discussion of drugs during play (in your opinion)?

So, we take this on with the research that we were able to find to discuss the use of poppers. It ended up being a great discussion that we tackle this topic from several different angles.

Enjoy!

 

Show Notes

About Our Guest

DT Tony and DT Bri are kinksters from the U.K., living in Chester, U.K., near Manchester and Liverpool. They are into BDSM, CP, face fucking, BC, gloves, oral, anal, CBT, TT, milking, dildos, electro, gags, leather, rubber, and so much more. It was fun getting to know them! Find them at recon.com/doubletop.

 

Sponsors

Mr. S Leather Co.

This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. Check out their new product, the Electro Paddle! Can’t wait to get one of these! http://www.mr-s-leather.com/EM2172.html#video

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Venus 2000

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The Eeveelution of Handleritis

Look closely, and you might notice an epidemic in the puppy community. Let’s call it Handleritis. It’s a very common ailment that most pups go through when first getting into the community. Some experience a full recovery, while others become so obsessed that they can think of nothing else.  Now, while handleritis is far from fatal, it is a chronic problem many puppies face: they want a handler, a trainer, Master or Sir of some kind that they can call their own. They seek someone to share a very strong bond with.  While many puppies are “strays,” so much depends on the individual puppy and how he/she goes about finding their ideal counterpart. Some might they feel they need a handler, while others might feel empowered being a stray, a wolf, or just “a strong independent puppy who don’t need no handler…”

So what is a handler? What are the expectations between the pup and handler? Finally, what are the differences in the types of handlers out there? At face value, a handler is usually the dominant figure, more assertive of the two people in a pup and handler relationship; he/she cares for the pup, guides the pup and provides a safe and consensual space to explore and be a puppy. Beyond that definition, handlers come in all shapes, sizes, levels of experience and with different expectations, respectively.  Expectations are sometimes negotiated, sometimes found through play and building a stronger pup/handler bond, and sometimes protocols are specifically given by the handler to the pup.

Expectations are what determine what sort of handler a pup wants or is looking for and visa-versa.  Handlers have a lot of latitude as far as how they want to relate to a pup, and that’s where the magical evolution lies.  A pup/handler relationship is what both parties agree to (or consent to); it can be about bondage, leather, rubber, cuddling, eating out of a dog bowl, etc., so long as both are happy and one identifies as a pup — you have a handler.
EeveelutionsThat said, there are a few specific types of handlers, let’s travel to the Pokémon world: a handler can be compared to an Eevee (who can be downright powerful without evolving via stones), the other handler types are simply different Eeveelutions: Flarion, Vaporean, Jolteon, and so on.  One such handler is what’s known as a trainer. Trainers are handlers who specifically train pups. Usually, they have a curriculum, or a game plan as far as how pups are trained and at what speed; a trainers goal is to have a trained pup by the end of their encounters.  Trainers are not expected to be significant others or have sexual relationships with pups. Another sort of handler might be the Sir.  Sirs can be handlers to their boy pups, training them as boys at times, a puppy in another instance, or a mix of the two respectively. Masters, like the Sirs, train their slavepups in a similar but slightly different fashion.

So some of you might be curious – how does one search for a hander? How did I find mine? How and where do handlers and pups look to find each other? While I can’t guarantee that Amazon has them available to order, I can guarantee that we will dive right into that topic . . . next week!

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Episode 53 – Turning 50 is a Drag

It is Daddy Tony’s Birthday! And he’s 50! He can kick! And Stretch! And KICK!

We decided one fun way we could celebrate his birthday was to have party for the show recording, so we invited a bunch of our friends and turn it into a fun night! Thank you to everyone that joined.

The other way we decided to bring over a friend of the show, Seattle’s own Mama Tits. Two of the most visible and organized sub-groups of the gay community are the leather/kink crowd and the drag queens. Yet there are times when the line between these two is very clearly drawn, even though we all are working towards the same time goal! So we decided to take some time to talk with Mama Tits to talk about the relationship between our two communities.

Even if you are not into drag or drag queens yourself, this is a chance to learn more about our sisters and where they are coming from.

This was a wild one and we hope you enjoy!

Donation Program

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Show Notes

In the News

  1. Guy wrecks his apartment after having sex with a gay demon
  2. World plagued by horrible fish sex sound
  3. 15 lies about sex “we” have all told
  4. Guy cuts off his own penis then forgets it

Discussion Topics

  •  Relationship of kink and drag
  • “Clown Fuckers”
  • “Drag” lets us come out of our shell
  • Growing up in rural America
  • Proudly being who you are in the world
  • Is drag a fetish?

About Our Guest

Seattle’s Skyscraper Hostess, the One and Only Mama Tits is the creation of Brian Daniel Peters. You may recognize her as the former Host of LeFaux at Julia’s on Broadway from 2010-2011 or as one of the hosts of the Seattle Pride Parade for the past 4 years alongside Sylvia O’Stayformore at the 4th and Bell stage. Mama Tits was one of the hosts of the 2010 Pride-fest Main stage at Seattle Center, she was the Original Hostess of the hottest weekday club night on Capitol Hill, ElektroPoP! from 2011-2012, and the Original hostess of the Capitol Hill Talent Show. Mama is also the Producer and Star of “Mimosas with Mama”, Seattle’s #1 and Longest running weekly Drag Brunch, and works various private events around the Seattle area and across the country. Find her at twitter.com/TheMamaTits or facebook.com/TheMamaTits.

Sponsors

Mr. S Leather Co.

This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. Check out their new product, the Electro Paddle! Can’t wait to get one of these!

EM2172-300

 

Venus 2000

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Shorts 03 – Organizing a Puppy Group

For this show, we are joined by the president of Seattle Pups and Handlers (SEA-PAH), Matthew! The group has been going through the process of establishing all of the details it takes to be an organization. The board is meeting soon to discuss what comes next for the group.

It’s always interesting to check-in with groups when they are at this stage to see what is involved with taking the group up to that next level. It takes a lot of work to set up an organization to thrive for years to come. Litters of pups to come will be grateful!

 

Show Notes

Discussion Topics

  •  The “Julie the Cruise Director Story”
  • We get to know Matthew here is a bit
  • The structure of the puppy group
  • The types of events they put on
  • Their upcoming board retreat and why they are organizing

About Our Guest

Matthew is the president of Seattle Pups and Handlers (SEA-PAH), one of the upstart puppy groups taking root throughout the Northwest and the rest of the US. Check out their website for more information about  their group. Find Matthew at recon.com/ILove1stClass.

 

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Something Fishy

Catfish are a rare breed of fish in the kink community. Easy on the palette initially, catfish are a delicacy that’s never sought after, but it’s likely everyone will find it on the menu eventually. And make no mistake: Catfish are clever. They flop around for your attention and they might even give you a taste or two to whet your appetite. But before you know it — and long after you’re hooked and wanting more, they swim off — leaving you emptier than you were before encountering them. Even considering how fishy they truly smell (given the heightened senses of a puppy’s nose), a few catfish can slip past even the smartest and most aware puppies. As urban dictionary so appropriately describes them: “A catfish is someone who pretends to be someone they’re not, using Facebook or other social media to create false identities, particularly to pursue deceptive online romances,” and while that definition may appear somewhat harmless in the abstract, it doesn’t begin to account for the emotional damage a catfish can wreak on a pup.

How do I know? Well, there was a point in time when I was just getting into kink in general, before I knew I wanted to be a pup, that I started pursuing possible love interests/dates/play. Signing onto the many dating apps and chat rooms opened up a whole new world for me; one that offered many different points of view, with no one to tell me no, or direct me, or say, “Hey, get on your knees and suck this.” (At least I think that’s how a Disney movie would put it). But seriously, I was thrilled to know that I could log on and see who was within a 15-mile radius of my current location and exchange dirty/flirty comments with guys who wanted to do horrible, horrible, perversely awesome things to me. Even knowing this though, I was cautious: I did my weeding through the junk mail and creepers and chatted nicely with someone for long periods of time before meeting up, or even considering a “meat-and-greet,” for that matter.

Personal experiences…

Then he messaged me — the fishiest guy I’d ever had the chance to “meet” online. We chatted for what seemed like weeks, off and on. And at first, I was cautious of a guy who lived 500 miles away who had “happened” upon my profile that one day. At the time, he had a personality that was charming and dominant, with an endless supply of pictures for any occasion to back up those traits. He seemed legitimate. Weeks turned into a month, and wouldn’t you know it, but he was planning to move to my home city; he was looking for a new start and a new man to go with his new life. This should have been more than enough for me to say, “hold your horses” (or seahorses, in fish context), but I was still hopeful to meet this gorgeous guy who knew how to push my buttons. He continued to chat with me, lead me on, call me his pup and tell me of all the kinky things he knew I wanted done to me — all the while fishing for new details to keep me hooked. He would set a date for when he planned to visit, but some unforeseen disaster would always keep him from making good on his promise. He’d lost his job; his mother had a heart attack, there was a car accident . . .  whatever.

In conclusion…

That’s when I learned that the second you question a catfish or get upset because something smells fishy, he pivots to put the shame and blame on you for being insensitive or slow to trust. Long story short, I got somewhat attached to our conversations, but he never did visit. As a result, I became evermore cautious online. I also learned a good deal about protecting myself and my emotions — and about taking time to do the proper background checks that should accompany any kinky encounter.
Puppies, bless all their tail-wagging, squirrel-chasing hearts, are a rambunctious and affectionate bunch of kinksters. But sometimes, they’re naive and rush to attach to someone new and promising. They love unconditionally, follow those they hold close to the ends of the Earth, and they can often be very submissive. Puppies are also incredibly loyal to those who will chat and make them feel loved and cared for. Similarly, as online dating becomes more mainstream — with 59% of Americans regarding online introductions as a beneficial addition to the dating process (Herald News) — catfish are having a blast! I know several puppies who have fallen into a funk once a catfish has duped them, and just as many pups who’ve been taken advantage of because of how they’ve been told a puppy ought to behave. Puppies always have rights, though. And it’s certainly possible to avoid catfish and other fishy guys by keeping a few fundamentals in mind. This week, I’d alike to point out a few easy steps that will always ensure you pups go into a kinky discussion/playdate/whatever feeling safe, secure and ensuring you don’t get catfished:

  1. Trust your instincts. If it feels wrong, back off, ask more questions, or move on. Think with your brain, and not your dick. If it smells like a fish and acts like a fish, it’s probably a fish!
  2. Don’t play or plan to play privately with a stranger you don’t know. Do your background checks. Find them on Facebook. Ask them who they know in the kink/pup/bondage/daddy/sir/boy community in your area. The people who are worth playing with have real names, places where they work and and should have a circle of friends who will vouch for them.
  3. You have a voice! You don’t have to do what they say (and certainly not in this early discovery phase). A playdate/date/relationship, be it kinky or not, is about communicating. Remember that no one can take power from you that you don’t willingly surrender. It’s fine that you want to submit, but be sure first that the person you’re submitting to is going to treat you with respect for your safety and boundaries.
  4. Know what you’re getting into and be clear with the person you’re chatting with about precisely what is going to happen and how.
  5. Never assume. Always have a backup plan in case of a disaster. Play cautiously and never give anyone the benefit of the doubt without them first earning your trust.
  6. Never give out any personal information that could cause you trouble in the long run. Again, don’t trust anyone without them demonstrating first that they are trustworthy.
  7. Don’t think that just because they seem perfect, that they are. Catfish know how to play to your weaknesses and push your buttons. It’s a game they play very well.

Now go fish. And may your next catch be the guy of your dreams… literally!

ARROUU!!

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Episode 52 – DoubleTop

For this episode, we are joined in studio by one half of the DoubleTop team, Tony! He and his partner (DT Bri) are listeners of the show. He was coming to town for a few days and asked to be in the audience. We said, BE ON THE SHOW!, and he was gracious enough to step up to be interviewed.

We spend a lot of time talking with Tony about their relationship and what it is like to have an open, kinky relationship. We also spend a lot of time talking about the differences between the UK and the US.

We had a great time getting to know him and are looking forward to meeting Bri soon, too!

(and yes, Sparky knows he mixed up Epidemiology and Etymology. OOPS!)

 

Show Notes

In the News

Discussion Topics

  • Their relationship
  • Having an open kinky relationship
  • The different approaches to kink between UK and the US
  • The difference between IML and Folsom Berlin
  • Tops who start off as subs
  • German Fetish Parties
  • Psychology and approaches to kink

About Our Guest

DT Tony and DT Bri are kinksters from the U.K., living in Chester, U.K., near Manchester and Liverpool. They are into BDSM, CP, face fucking, BC, gloves, oral, anal, CBT, TT, milking, dildos, electro, gags, leather, rubber, and so much more. It was fun getting to know them! Find them at recon.com/doubletop.

 

This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather.

 

 

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You Know You’re a Puppy When

Coming to accept your inner puppy is a big step for people as they trek through their kink (and otherwise vanilla, or so-called “normal”) lives.  Choosing to join a new subculture, learning, exploring and otherwise defining oneself further is often life-changing. While coming out of the closet in my late teens was a huge part of what defined me as a person, I believe coming out as a puppy has both clarified that definition and opened new worlds to me in ways I can’t begin to explain entirely. Coming out of the closet — or in this case, coming out of the doghouse as a puppy — gave shape to innumerable characteristics and personality traits I’ve struggled with for years.

So you’re a puppy huh?

So how did I come to the conclusion I was a puppy, and how did I know that sort of lifestyle was for me? And let me emphasize, I choose the term “lifestyle” because I define it and in turn the lifestyle defines me as a person and a puppy. This doesn’t mean that I go to work in a harness and tail, but rather to say that who I am as a person draws from and lends support to my pup personality as Amp. I always smile to myself when I see a puppy doing something only a puppy would do, or worrying about something that only a puppy would stress about. It’s in those moments you can actually step back and observe your own puppy traits, plain as the nose on your snout.

You know you’re a puppy when…

Have you ever been so angry at a co-worker that you’ve physically growled at them?  How about finding your butt wagging back and forth when you get excited or happy? Ever jumped and excitedly turned and at the sound of a squeaking toy or someone yelling “SQUIRREL!”? Or maybe you just have an undying hatred for felines and of all catty people in general. Well, I hate to break it to you, but you just might be a puppy.

So for the sake of all potential and curious puppies out there, I ‘ve provided a few traits you may want to look out for if you’re wondering if you’re a puppy. You know you’re a puppy when:

  • Licking something automatically makes it yours.
  • The word “squirrel” immediately takes precedence of all your attention, No Matter What.
  • You have completely forgotten what you’re doing, because of the forementioned word that shall not be mentioned again.
  • Someone mentions they’ve got a treat for you, and you realize suddenly that you would do anything for it.
  • Something/someone new must ALWAYS be sniffed before interaction.
  • The word “bone” has many connotations. All of them good.
  • You have to use the term “bio-dog” to differentiate in conversation.
  • All conversations sooner or later land on the topics of dogs and/or dog behavior.
  • Proving your dominance to your friends is of the upmost importance.
  • Cuddling and closeness is the most important thing in any relationship.
  • Dog puns are a part of everyday life.
  • You could throw a ball back and forth all day.
  • Pampering yourself involves a trip to the pet store.
  • Speak doesn’t usually end with you making actual words.
  • Falling asleep on the floor is normal.

Like any community, being a puppy comes with certain social expectations and personality trait associations. As any puppy can attest, we are some of the craziest kinksters out there, both social and awkward at the same time. We can be loving; but are always looking for more love.

ARROOU!

Just for good measure…

And last but not least, here’s a perfect example of puppy — and cat — characteristics and traits as performed by some adorable boys!)

Cat-Friend vs Dog-Friend
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Episode 51 – Covering Recovery

Boy Josh is new to Seattle and has been on the road to recovery from past drug addictions that was a big part of his life as a part of early kink experiences. He is now on the road of recovery and was willing to share his story.

Drugs are a part of American life in general, and all of us have had to deal with drugs as a part of our kink life. Be it trying ourselves or knowing others who use or have used. And we all have different levels of what is acceptable and not when it comes to drugs being a part of play.

So having a honest, open communication about how drugs affected one person, in this case with Boy Josh, we get to explore what the impact of drugs can be to us all.

We thank Josh for talking with us about his very personal journey!

 

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Episode 50 – Boys Night!

We are already to Episode 50! That is a milestone, and we are so thankful to have all of you in our audience listening the show to keep us going forward.

We thought we might do something a little different and let the boys take over for the evening. Nightcat and bndgkid were given the reigns of the show and have Daddy Tony and Sparky as the guests to talk about the show and a little bit about what we do on the show and where we are going with the show.

It was a very different kind of show and we hope you enjoy it!

 

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Pet Play and Puppies

 

It was a chilly walk down the street to “The Bunker,” as it was called.  So much bouncing around inside my head about this new kink I was about to venture into; puppy play. As I walked, the city was the same; cars honking and sirens blaring in the usual chorus of city sounds.  Everyone in the city was up to their usual antics, but today, today . . . I was on my way to a mosh. The Facebook invitation had given the address and time of what was called a “puppy mosh,” and I still wasn’t sure what to think of it all.  I mean, it was so overwhelming, and I didn’t have any of that gear I had always pictured on puppies: tail, mask, mitts, kneepads, and who knew what else was expected of me! Overwhelmed and excited and just a tad scared, I remember those being the biggest sensations in my stomach as I arrived at the big brick building and rang the buzzer.  It was my first step into puppy play, in educating myself on what it means to be a puppy, but it certainly wouldn’t be my last. As I’ve already stated, this blog is simply one pup’s experience of what puppy play means and involves, and telling the tail of my adventures thus far. Like any typical journey there is a beginning, where the protagonist is just getting his bearings and only beginning to understand the potential within himself, then learning the history and the basics of what lies ahead. So rather than bore you with my personal history again, lets discuss where puppy play has come from, some of the basic pup archetypes that exist, and go from there!

A Brief Hirstory in Pet Play

The House of Hunt portraying Pup Play and Pony Play side by side. Photo by Chris Baggaratzi

The House of Hunt portraying Pup Play and Pony Play side by side. Photo by Chris Baggaratzi

So we’ve already established what puppy play is, a typical situation involves a top/dom handler and a bottom/sub pup, but how did this dynamic begin? Puppy play itself actually sprang from a larger category of animal roleplay, or pet play, which includes pup play, pony play, kitten play, pig play and whatever animal identity the players choose to represent themselves.

While much of this activity has been nailed down to specifics today, pet play didn’t start out so well-defined and, in fact, it’s been around much longer than many realize. Some say that the notion of pet play came from the myths and legends we’ve all heard while growing up — with heroes and villains who told us stories of might and magic in order to teach lessons, usually with some moral encoded within. We can even draw parallels to comics in contemporary life from the pantheon of superheroes: Catwoman, Wildcat,  Batman, and one of my favorites, Wolverine, just to name a few of comic’s iconic characters who take on animal characteristics.

Others would say that culturally, therianthropy was the first form of pet play and a common ritual part in many tribes, in which members of the tribe would take the role physically and often spiritually of an animal revered orhunted. Therianthropy is the metamorphosis of humans into animals via shape-shifting. Other terms you may have heard of that fall under this include: lycanthropy (werewolves), cyanthropy (weredogs), and ailuranthropy (werecats).  In this way, the construct of pet play was seen by the surrounding society as empowering and mystical.

How does this fit into BDSM community?

So knowing all this, how has pet play been incorporated into today’s BDSM world? Even in modern pet play scenes, some continue to regard it as a type of therianthropy, where an “inner pet” is a spirit animal of sorts, a totem, in which the participant seeks to become spiritually closer to his or her pet nature by acting the part and visualizing yourself at one with whatever totem you choose.  Some people find this use of pet play and totems similar to how furries in today’s society use “fursonas” (a furry persona) to portray themselves — but that is another blog post entirely.

For some, pet play can also revolve around power play, degradation, humiliation and any sort of headspace and scenario acceptable to those involved. For others still, this type of play can exist in any space between a 24/7 living house pet, or just the occasional play for a few hours meant to help an individual unwind and forget the shackles and worries of everyday life.  Pet play is up to each consenting adult as to how it is used and for what duration and all parties have a say as to how it is performed and to what length.

But what about puppies!?

Early Pup Play masks

Early Pup Play masks

Puppies, as we’ve discussed, have come from the play in which a person takes on the behaviors of a canine, with a handler or owner caring for that pup.  But what sets puppy play apart from other pets lies in the different classifications of puppies that exist.  One classification of a puppy exists within how puppies are organized or identified on different levels: The Alpha Pup is always top dog,  and under them romp the Beta pups, and lower on the scale there are even Omega pups, too. This type of hierarchy is something often discovered during play scenes — who can top who — or is sometimes determined by a puppy owning another puppy via a collar, or a chain around his neck. In this collaring example, a Handler could collar an Alpha pup, and the Handler or Alpha could then collar a Beta pup and so on. Within the BDSM community, a collared puppy is owned, accounted for and has a handler or master who should always be asked for permission before approaching their pup.

Other classifications of pups help to describe what they are into, and for what periods of time. Dogs are one such subset, which tells us that they are seen as a dog, treated as a pet and that they behave as any real four-legged dog would. They exist to service a master the same as any pet, and they are more comfortable on all fours; the main difference between a dog and a puppy is his goal.  Where a dog is on all fours and looks to physically and mentally portray a canine, a puppy looks to play, be it sexually or not, as a pup with the understanding that they are human at times standing up and doing  things for themselves when need be. Then there are dogboys (or pupboys) who act as a human pup at times and a boy to their Daddy at others. There are also slavepups, who are sometimes a Handler’s pup, other times their Master’s slave and sometimes even a mixture of the two. The constellation is a big one, and growing all the time to incorporate leather pups and rubber pups, which are pups with gear fetishes of one kind or another, and pigpups or pigdogs who have a certain fondness for filth, piss, scat, mud, pain, etc.  Puppies can even be described by their profession, as in Devil Dogs, a term used to describe puppies who are or were once members of the United States Marine Corps.

So how does knowing all this help you become a better puppy? For starters, knowing what you are and where you came from makes for clearer negotiating as a knowledgeable puppy. Understanding what is expected, and what classification of pup you are will only help you and a potential handler connect on a deeper level. And finally, knowing you have rights and a say in what you want is crucial. Some handlers will say there is only one way to train a pup, when in fact, there are many ways in which puppy play has been and can be interpreted. Does that make any one method wrong? Absolutely not! I am simply stating that what works for one puppy and gets his tail wagging will not necessarily be what another puppy has in mind.

When I first stepped foot into that bunker so long ago, I knew nothing of any of this history or even the most basic classifications of pets or pups. This knowledge has been something I have had to pursue through reading books, or scouring the internet, because puppy play is something I wanted to pursue.  Its an activity I love and enjoy, and hope to share with all those who read this blog. I offer this information not only to those considering making that first step into the puppy play scene, but as an invitation to anyone interested in puppy play to educate yourself even further. Puppy play is about being yourself in a different state, a state where you are comfortable, able to relax, be silly or spiritually close to your pup self. But puppy play is also about educating yourself: Learning, being safe, and finding it out what it feels like to truly let go and romp!

AROUUUUUU!

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Episode 49 – Drewlion

A friend of the show was coming to town for some interviews as he is interested in moving to the Pacific Northwest, so we decided to spend some time getting to know him.

Drewlion is coming at his kinks from a variety of places; furry, boy, puppy, switch. It is always fascinating to hear how each person learns and grows in how they approach their sexuality. And that is exactly why we like to talk to people like Drew. He has a boyfriend, and a Sir and an Alpha, and we talk about how he approaches this relationship. We also spend some time talking about his family situation.

Hope you enjoy getting to know him as much as we did!

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About Our Guest

DrewLion is a kinky boy who grew up in seeming isolation in Arkansas. Soon he hopes to move to Seattle. Despite the lack of many kinsters locally, he’s managed to find a boyfriend, and a Sir, and an Alpha to keep him company and watch over him. Find him on Twitter and Recon.

 

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